Welcome back to our continuing series on social anxiety and rejection. In our previous post, we examined the effects of rejection on someone who struggles with social anxiety disorder. At Legacy Freedom, we know how hard it is to live with social anxiety and how limiting it can be. Craving social interaction while finding it difficult to reach out and connect can be exhausting. When you factor the possibility of rejection into the equation, the idea of putting yourself out there can be even more overwhelming. However, if you have a plan for coping with rejection, making connections and fostering relationships or friendships can be worthwhile.
These tips can help you deal with rejection when you have social anxiety.
Take a Step Back
When a social interaction doesn't go exactly as you had hoped, take a step back and reassess the situation. Removing yourself from the situation stops the negative stimuli and allows you to retreat to an environment where you are comfortable and can focus without distraction. When something bothers you about the way a person interacted with you or about the social situation take time to calm down, readjust your thought pattern, and make a plan so that you can respond to a similar situation in a more controlled way next time.
Replay the Situation
Your social anxiety can convince you that something is negative when it really isn't. Poorly sent or misread signals can cause stress and misunderstanding in an already anxious social situation. Discuss with a friend what happened and get their perception of the situation. It's possible that you missed something in the conversation or that you misread their facial expressions or actions. Either way, talking about the experience with someone can help you feel better and give you the confidence to try again.
Asking yourself what you really think happened and focusing on the facts can help stop the wheel of social anxiety from spinning out of control. Using this technique is helpful when you feel yourself losing your cool and are in desperate need of a way to calm down and gain control. The response of your social anxiety to the perceived rejection or awkward interaction can cause a full-blown panic attack. Instead of succumbing to the spiral and retreating, ask yourself what happened and why you feel the way you do at that moment. Many people find that asking themselves questions is a good way to redirect their thoughts and center their focus.
If your social anxiety is keeping you from enjoying your life or is making it hard for you to connect with people, Legacy Freedom can help. Thousands of clients have learned new ways to cope with their social anxiety through our holistic approach to mental health care. Stop letting your fears control your life. Call or connect with our care team today and get on the road to better mental health with Legacy Freedom!